Dear Dr. Cary,
Over a year ago, I broke up with my girlfriend of two years. I let the whole thing drag out way too long and made a lot of bad choices, and hurt her a lot more than I needed to. Three months after it was over, I broke contact with her. Six weeks later, she started calling me, but I didn’t respond. One night around then I was in my basement bedroom at about midnight. She started calling me and I ignored the calls. Then I heard a knock on my window. I came outside, and she was next to my bedroom window. She came at me and started screaming. I could smell alcohol on her, and she started choking me. She spent that night in jail, having been dragged off my front porch by two policemen, but not before kicking in a window.
The last communication I had with her was an e-mail in which I told her not to contact me again or I would put a restraining order on her. It’s been about a year now, and I find myself wanting to contact her again, to say something like “I’m sorry that I hurt you.” I want to know if she’s okay, if she’s on a good path, etc., but I don’t want to be her friend, or even see her in person ever again.
When is it too soon to contact a crazy ex?
Medicine Hat, AB
I’m not sure who should have been dragged off; either her to jail – as was the case, or you to the loony-bin!. Ever heard of the word NEVER???
Get over yourself and for sure – her unless you like torture. There are many people in the Dominatrix business who could help you.
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