For the typical, ordinary single guy, meeting new women can be a hazardous operation. These days, there are so many new obstacles to hooking up with potential females that the old ones tend to be forgotten – but they are still the hardest to overcome.

Modern problems with meeting new women include how honest to be in online profiles, how to get together in real time without sounding too pushy, and so on.

Sweaty palms, awkward pauses in the conversation, stammering, and gestures that start to get weird – these are just some of the outward manifestations of being nervous. When you are in a situation that promotes meeting new women, you tend to freeze up because you are so nervous you can’t be natural and normal.

Some men have such a bad case of the nerves that they never get past the introduction stage without feeling like they’re starting with a handicap – and that never helps in successful dating. Best thing I’ve found is to jerk off before your date to ease the tension.

People are extremely image-aware in these modern times. It seems that we expect everyone to be above average and look like a fashion model. Typical characteristics of the self-conscious man are that you think your hair is all wrong, that your skin isn’t as tan and healthy as it should be, that you should work out more to look hunkier, that you’re too fat or too skinny, that your teeth aren’t white enough, and so on.

When you meet a new woman and all you can think about is yourself, you’re going to have a hard time getting through to her. Forget about yourself – (unless you haven’t showered for the last week). Focus on meeting her eyes straight on without looking elsewhere then give her that complete once-over with that self-assured manner.

It is truly amazing, the range of stupid things that can come out of a guy’s mouth when he’s meeting a woman for the first time. The combination of nervousness and self-consciousness can lead to some real mistakes in communication, to say the least. If you’ve ever used a tired old line like do you come here often, or tried to say something nice that comes out sounding inappropriate or dumb, or bragged about yourself in a macho way, then you’ve experienced the big turn off.

What women like in men are those who are good with words, and can stay focused on what’s happening when the talk is flowing. And that takes practice. Tell her what she sees is what she gets. This will show her self-confidence. Hopefully she likes who you are. If she doesn’t like what she sees – Oh well – there’s a 1000 other women out there who will. Just let her know it’s okay if she doesn’t like what she sees. what she sees is what she gets. No game playin

Actions speak louder than words, so they say, and this applies multiplied by a hundred when you’re a man meeting new women. Your body language can speak volumes about you that may be the wrong message, so you need to learn how you are coming off non-verbally. And you can make the wrong gesture at the wrong time, like buying and presenting a gift or asking for a date before you’ve gotten to the right time.

Your whole body language with a comfortable swagger will come off as a man who is comfortable in his own skin. You don’t want to come off as a little dog begging for scraps at the table. You want her to see you as a mountain of strength.

Let’s say you have overcome your severe case of the nerves, you’ve conquered your self-consciousness, and you have learned how to say and do the right things when you are meeting women. There is a point in the process where you simply have to take the leap and ask for a date. One of the hardest things that men have to deal with is following through, because they are afraid the answer will be no.

All the advice in the world won’t help if you can’t risk rejection and you never ask the all-important question – would you like to have dinner with me? Be direct & let her know what you want and that it’s okay if she’s not yet comfortable with what you want.